Monday, May 26, 2014

HOW TO ACCEPT CORRECTION


Webster’s defines criticism as: the act of expressing disapproval and of noting the problems or faults of a person or thing, the act of criticising someone or something, the activity of making careful judgments about the good and bad qualities of books, movies, etc.

Webster’s defines correction as: a change that makes something right, true, accurate, etc., the act of making something (such as an error or a bad condition: accurate or better, the act of correcting something, the act or process of punishing and changing the behavior of people who have committed crimes.

We all need correction in our lives and there is nothing shameful about needing to be corrected when you do something wrong, it doesn’t mean that you are a failure. When people give correction try to focus on how difficult it must be for them to do it and how loving it is for them to give advice. 

Correction is essential for growth. It gives you insight into how you are perceived by others and helps you to curb negative traits that you may not even know you have developed.

A person who dismisses correction is like a pilot who ignores direction from the control tower. The result can be disastrous.

Criticism can hurt, but you have to try and remember that the person who gives it wants you to be the best that you can be. The person who gives the correction or criticism is only trying to help you be the best person that you can be.

Everyone makes mistakes, no person is perfect, try to appreciate when people tell you when you are wrong, and they may know something you do not. Every day is a learning process and potential for making mistakes is always there because life is a learning process and you will stumble, but wouldn’t it be nice if you didn’t always fall because someone corrected you previously?

When someone corrects you try to look at the matter objectively. You might be inclined to take offense at the correction. But try to put your feelings aside. To help you do that, take yourself out of the situation for a moment and imagine that you are giving the same correction to someone else. Now put yourself back into the situation and try to view the matter the same way. 

Sometimes you can get so upset over the criticism that you forget that this person was trying to help you become a better person, not trying to hurt your feelings. The correction that hurts the most may be the correction that you need the most.

Do not let pride cause you to reject the correction. On the other hand, do not allow yourself to become overwhelmed with discouragement just because you have something to work on. Humility will help you to avoid either extreme. Remember: The correction that hurts the most may be the correction that you need the most. If, for whatever reason, you reject it, you miss out on a valuable opportunity to grow.

Accepting correction is an important part of becoming a mature adult. If we don’t learn to take it and grow from it, we hurt ourselves in the long run.

Even if you find the correction difficult to accept, why not express your gratitude to the person who gave it? Undoubtedly, that person has your best interest at heart and truly wants you to succeed. 

You can never go wrong with saying thanks, especially if you needed the counsel. Even if you didn’t, you can be gracious and express thanks for the effort the person took to approach you.

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