Sunday, June 29, 2014

ARE YOU A MEDDLER?

UNSOLICITED ADVICE IS ALWAYS MEDDLING


Many times, if someone doesn't ask for your advice, then they don't want it. Even if a person is broadcasting their plight to you, unless they ask, they don't want to hear what you have to say. The least you can do is allow them to vent. Just shut up and listen because often, unless you are asked for your opinion or advice, then it is not appreciated. If you respect that person, then who are you to think that you know what is better for that person? If you respect them then trust that they know exactly what they are doing. There is a reason why people do the things they do. Everyone is different and there is no one way of doing things. You are meddling if you believe that you know what is best for another, unless you are dealing with a child or senile person.

When you are discussing things with other people, everyone tends to give their opinion or tell a story about a particular topic when they are asked, each person relays their own personal belief. It is a form of meddling when you try to make another one believe what you believe about something. In other words, trying to convert another person is a form of meddling.

Sometimes you may find that you are listening to the same problem that the same person may have. What do you do? Listen. If they have asked you before, and are asking again, try not to give the same answer, help them in a different way, because if you continually offer the same advice it may be considered meddling.

See to your life, see to your own family, if someone asks for your advice then give it, but give it with love and understanding, give it because you want to genuinely help that person in their time of need, but never for your own personal gain.


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